Friend Wants To Upgrade Her Engagement Ring From Gold To Platinum…is She Wrong?
Written by Admin on December 11, 2010I impact a someone who went anulus shopping with her betrothed and told him that every that matters to her is that the adornment on the occurrence anulus be greyness in tone…white gold, platinum, etc. Because she does not coiffe antimonial jewelry…at all.
Well, her betrothed purchased a comely 3 apportionment (very panoptic calibre diamonds) GOLD occurrence ring. He could not provide to impart platinum owed to the diamonds and did not impoverishment to take albescent antimonial for her because he said it bush advert emblem eventually. Though she’s love’s the stones and the anulus initially…she today wants to country (herself) to impact the adornment upgraded from antimonial to platinum. She took her betrothed conceive anulus shopping and she’s acquire him meet what he wants for his start band.
Is she wrong? Is this a expiration in the grappling to her fiancee?
Originally posted 2009-10-05 12:00:04. Republished by Old Post Promoter
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Posted in Platinum Wedding Band 19 Comments »
5:02 pm on October 5th, 2009
it is frustrating to let the guy completely pick the ring out, when you are the one that’s wearing it. If she mentioned she wanted a silver look, he should have respected that. It seems that she is respecting him by taking him out personally. I totally understand her, as I would NOT want a gold band. If she is paying her own money, I don’t see the big issue.
6:08 pm on October 5th, 2009
She should appreciate the fact she got ASKED in the first place!
IMO I think if girls are giving prerequisites for rings, they should be dumped like last years potatoes.
I love the ring my fiance got. I’d love it no matter the color of the band or the size of the diamond. I’d be tickled he asked and even happier to say yes.
Tell her to deal with it, and upgrade it after their fifth/tenth anniversary, IF it lasts that long!
12:06 am on October 6th, 2009
She told him specifically that she wanted a silver toned metal – white gold or platinum. He went out and bought her exactly what she didn’t want. So no, I don’t think she’s wrong at all to want to upgrade the band. At least she’s offering to pay…
4:54 am on October 6th, 2009
Before she does anything I think she should sit and have a chat with the fiancee. I’m sure he will understand, since he knew beforehand that she wanted something other then yellow gold.
7:02 am on October 6th, 2009
No…. she said she didn’t want gold. He should have either got white gold and dealt with the issue of color turning when it happened or down graded the diamonds and got a platinum band. She made it clear to him.
11:08 am on October 6th, 2009
I guess in this case they are both in the wrong. She told him all that mattered was that it be silver in tone, she never told him it had to have 3 diamonds, nor did she specify that it had to be so fancy. I don’t wear yellow gold either, in fact, I hate it. My husband knows this and even if he liked a piece of jewelry, he wouldn’t buy it for me because I wouldn’t wear it. An engagement ring is something special that you wear for the rest of your life, and it should match your style and what you like to wear. Secondly, white gold does not change colors. I don’t know where he got this idea, but I own white gold jewelry and I’ve never had it change colors on me.
On the same token, I think that upgrading it to platinum is a little strange. If anything, I think she should just change the band to white gold so it’s not much more or the same in cost. But otherwise, I think her fiance should have known better than to buy her a yellow gold ring.
3:41 pm on October 6th, 2009
he’s a schmuck for not getting her what she wanted, she’s stuck with that ring for life (or ten or 20 years until he buys her an anniversary setting, if ever) so she should get what she wants. white gold does not ‘turn color’ so whoever told that guy it does is not a reputable jeweler and she should not go back to that store.
10:26 pm on October 6th, 2009
I don’t think she should be the one to switch out her band, that is a slap in the face. she should talk to him about it because it wasn’t that he didn’t care he just didn’t want to get her something that would fade or anything. He probably just didn’t think that it would be that big of deal with such nice diamonds in it. He could go exchange it for white gold, but platinum is super expensive and will rack up the cost enormously.
12:49 am on October 7th, 2009
tell her to try palladium, we went ring shopping last night and got all the info on the metals, white gold does turn colors, but palladium, which is one step above, but not quite platinum is white to begin with so the color wont turn
7:24 am on October 7th, 2009
She’s not wrong…the fiance is a little silly though, as if it is REALLY white gold, it won’t change colors. I’m not really sure why he would get the yellow gold if he knew that she didn’t want that…It seems that she would almost prefer a smaller diamond than the yellow gold.
If she’s paying for it herself, I don’t see any problem with it
7:26 am on October 7th, 2009
No I don’t think it’s wrong at all, if she doesn’t like gold why would she keep her ring gold, especially if his ring is platinum. Her best bet is to take the ring to a jeweler and get a new setting in plat. keep the diamonds though. She might have to go to an independent jeweler, not Kay’s or Zales to have this done.
11:47 am on October 7th, 2009
He can exchange the ring for white gold and it won’t turn colors. Platinum is now almost $2000 per ounce…it is a bit much to ask for…if the things of the wedding are most important perhaps this man should reconsider if he has the right woman to spend his life with!
11:57 am on October 7th, 2009
I HATE yellow gold myself.
Well before getting engaged I told my fiance if he ever buys me jewelry to make it sterling silver or white gold because I do not wear yellow gold. I seriously dislike it.
I would have rather he bought me a “cheaper” sterling silver engagement ring than yellow gold and if my fiance had bought me a yellow gold engagement ring, I would be looking to change it or I would just put it in my jewelry box and never wear it.
This is one of the very few things that I am extremely particular about. And if the guy couldn’t get that right for his girl, I really have to wonder.
As a side-note, most jewelers do not charge more for white gold than yellow gold and if it is good quality white gold, it doesn’t turn or start to yellow or need to be re-dipped.
2:50 pm on October 7th, 2009
i dont think it is wrong, and white gold doesnt change colors, so she could just exchange it for white gold. I told my finace the same thing and he got me a platinum, he should have listened.
8:39 pm on October 7th, 2009
erm…I quote “fiancee and told him that all that matters to her is that the band on the engagement ring be silver in tone…white gold, platinum”
Surely all that matters is love and faithand commitment? yes, she is slapping him in the face. Aright, he should have gone with her to buy the ring but he was being galant and shes just being ungrateful.
If she wants to swap for platinum then she should tell him very tactfully and ensure that NOBODY ELSE knows they changed the engagement ring as she’ll look selfish and he’ll feel like a failure.
I take it you are American?
2:48 am on October 8th, 2009
No shes not wrong at all. She clearly told her fiance what she wanted. She does not wear gold…so her finace was in the wrong for getting something that she said she did not want and will not wear.
9:13 am on October 8th, 2009
Well I really dislike yellow gold and would never wear it so there is no way my fiance would of ever been silly enuff to buy me yellow gold. I dont understand why this fellow would buy her yellow gold when he knows she never wears it.
I think it was arrogant of him to buy yellow gold in the first place, it is like he got it to spite her, just so he could get a good deal on the diamonds.
If I was her I would insist on him taking the ring back and getting it changed at HIS expense. After all, she was clear about what she wanted from the start.
I never understand when people say white gold changes colour. Do they make white gold differently in the US? My understanding is that white gold is yellow gold mixed with silver and other metals to make it white. It is then rhodium plated to make it really white. The gold is white all the way thru. the white wont rub or wear off. It might just get a little less shiny over the years. However then you can just have it redipped in rhodium, inexpensive and simple to have done. Personally, I wouldnt bother, I like the look of white gold without the rhodium.
My Grandmother had white gold rings. They never went yellow and are still gorgeous white colour.
I see loads of old ladies in my work who wear white gold, and despite being 50 years or so old it is still white.I have 2 white gold, diamond bands that my fiance bought me over the years. One I have been wearing every single day since he gave it to me 3 years ago. It is as white as the day he gave it to me. My engagement ring is 18 carat white gold and it is white and shiny and gorgeous.
White gold is white all the way thru.
If a jeweller is dipping yellow gold in rhodium to make it white, then he is not a good jeweller and I would not buy anything from that store. That Jewelry would be substandard.
White gold is white all the way thru.
12:33 pm on October 8th, 2009
NO I don’t think it is wrong at all. I personally do not wear gold jewlery either. This is her preference. They could always just have the ring re-plated. It would be more cheaper then buying a new ring. I have a white gold ring and my ring has not changed colors and I have been wearing it (without taking it off) for 4 years.
4:25 pm on October 8th, 2009
I don’t think it is, she told him specifically what she wanted and he got her the one thing she didn’t want. I wouldn’t consider it rude for her to change the band.